I wanted to write about real experiences that happened during my adventure going from “vanilla” to “Vixen.” I didn’t want to lay on the sexiness or make up anything – I wanted to tell the stories where something went wrong. I want others to learn from my adventures and learn how to experience and navigate their own.

This book doesn’t contain all my adventures, nor does it contain all my stories; some things I wanted to have all to myself, and I wanted to have more to tell… but I do reference many things throughout. It will be clear, it will be messy, and it will be rated very XXX. It’s not all sex-capades and non-stop fun; it’s more of a sexual evolution. Sex-positivity is on the rise and will not stop. It is time to open the discussion!

This book is about having hard conversations, what I messed up on, and how my own hurt and trampled boundaries were addressed. This book is real – real stories with real people and actual events.

I went from saying “yes” to anything and everything, not knowing my boundaries, and not knowing how to communicate my needs, wants, and desires to knowing who I am, what I want, what’s ok with me and not ok with me, owning my boundaries, and owning my self-worth. Most importantly, I learned how to communicate my wants, needs, and desires. This is not to say that I am perfect; truthfully, we are in our uniqueness, and growth is an ongoing thing. We always have to learn and always have to grow, and to do so, we make mistakes, test our limits, and move forward.

If you are not into growth…
If you’re not into knowing yourself…
If you don’t want to know your kink…
If you don’t want to know how to communicate…
If you don’t want to find out your needs, wants, desires…
Oh, and you don’t like sex…

Then please don’t read this book… If you are into these things… Well, let’s get messy, sweaty, real, and raw!